Dating a divorced man with grown children
Seeing you alone (for any reason) complicates things. On a very deep emotional level, this can be difficult to overcome. Another reason why children can be against you dating is that they actually want to protect you.
Building on this, they might actually see your desire to date as a betrayal of your “original (in their minds)” partner. Perhaps your previous spouse did not treat you well.
Of course, this fifteen to twenty years period can vary, but for the most part, it goes like this – first you make sure they survive. Before you know it, you have adult children and you want to start dating again.
It is only natural that they want to prevent this from happening again.
These are just a few reasons as to why your adult children might be resisting the idea of you dating again.
But I quickly learned that this wasn't my kid, and the rules were different at my boyfriend's house. So if I felt a Playstation attack coming on, I left. I invited them places and if they didn't want to go, I went with someone else or by myself. If he doesn't do anything about it if it happens again, go straight to the kid. (And I can hear the parents recoiling that the childless girl is suggesting it! She not only gave vows to her new husband, she also gave vows to her new stepson.
When you date someone who has a child, they can feel that their life has more "weight" than yours -- like you should do whatever they want to do based on their schedules and needs. Be gentle, but let them know that things are a-changin' in the house. If I ever find myself in that situation, I'll totally do it, too.
You have to make sure you're serious and your partner is serious before you bring the kiddos into the mix.