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I’d go, ‘What the fuck, you’re not spending any time with me! I just let him dominate because then I had no way of trying to sort out how not to get dominated.
’ ‘Woo woo, I’m supposed to be number one centre of attention here, not the bloody book.’ Now I realise they need their time out, they need their book read, they need to relax. Although I didn’t do everything he said, although I was swayed I suppose. Maybe later there were some areas which I would stand up to him about, perhaps like the children a little bit.” Everyone in an intimate relationship knows what their partner’s particular “looks” mean.
Or, as Heather said, Luke used to throw shoes directly at her.
Elsie said Leon “would just rant and rave or throw something or other.
This is the fourteenth of 16 blogs discussing the patterns of tactics from my power and control wheel — Symbolic Aggression.
Drawing from research with men who have used symbolic aggression, and women who have been subjected to it, this blog illustrates just some of the tactics — these include the ways the perpetrator uses his body to intimidate, stalking behaviours, destroying, hiding or misusing the woman’s property, using physical items to intimidate such as driving recklessly, threats to kill or harm her, her friends, family, new partner or pets.
Susan said Anthony turned up at her farm work “at 5.30 in the morning and for my own safety I woke my boss up. I had to leave town coz I could not handle it if he turned up at my house at night to see what he could see or do or whatever.
The abuser’s tone of voice or actual words can be forms of symbolic aggression.
Teresa said Patrick “was never physically abusive, but there were times when I thought he was going to be, where he’d stand over me and I’d be lying or sitting down and he’d just stand over me with his fist clenched and with a face like granite and look at me really coldly and I was really scared that if I said or did the wrong thing that he would hit me, and that was really intimidating.” Teresa responded to this intimidation “by grovelling and being nice.
I made the mistake of laughing the first time he did it.
One of the men interviewed by Cavanagh and her colleagues said: “I was a bit of a tactician, I’d more or less try to intimidate her by going quiet and staring.”(1) Symbolic aggression includes standing uncomfortably close to her, or making rude insulting threatening gestures, which differ from culture to culture.
These may include sudden upward arm thrusts, clenching or shaking their fists, thrusting up single or double middle fingers into the air, stomping out of the room, or blocking the door so she can’t get out.
Sally said, “every time I prepared a portion of the garden to grow vegetables, Dylan would take over that patch, planting what he wanted.